a (bland) regular day

Well July is at it's last day. The month came and went. Quite hot but we knew it was coming.  I am just glad its over. I've been asked if I had a drink for my birthday? What did I do?

On my actual birthday I did nothing special. I know it's not normal of me but I wanted to celebrate it as (bland) as possible. As I get a year older it doesn't really make it any better. I try to tell myself that yes I am wiser and have learned more this year but in actuality I'm more closer to my end years as my younger ones. It's depressing whoever tells you older is better well maybe they haven't lived. I look back on a whole year and see how many things could have happened but didn't happen and yet I am lucky to make it to another year. Twice in one week alone came close to me having an accident on the high way. I could have developed some crazy rabies from a dog bite. That cyst that bothers me every once in a while just waiting patiently to burst. See the older you get the more prone you are to realizing how close you are to your end years. Have you ever experience a moment in time where you said to yourself " just a few more seconds and that could have been me"?


Heather's egg sandwich



chick-fil -a

It killed Heather to not make my special day an extra good one. I kept telling her nope. I wanted it to be like a regular day. She did make me my favorite breakfast item ( an egg sandwich) if you have not been able to try Heather's special egg sandwich then yes you should be jealous. It is a very delicious tasty sandwich. I didn't open any presents because like I mentioned you normally don't open presents on a regular day. We did however go to the movies, the dollar movies. Watched The Great Gatsby. It is a must watch, matter of fact we will be going back to watch it again very soon. Then had Chick-fil -a for a chicken lovers choice of food. Did you know that gay and lesbians work at Chick-fil -a? If you didn't know before now you know and they wont turn us away. If you haven't had a chicken sandwich from there I would have to say they are delicious. If you have had them and miss them then maybe you should give it another try. If you actually look at the picture that I have provided you with makes me wonder what makes them deliciously addicting when they look so (Bland)? Before heading home stopped by my parents. If you are, I'm going to say Mexican, and you live with lets say sixty miles from your parents it is a must to see them on your birthday. If not the whole "I brought you into this world on this day and I'm not going to see my baby" guilt trip will happen. Trust me. I had the whole three days off to celebrate my somewhat special day had plans to go to Houston. Some people don't like Houston but I think that it's because they don't know what they are really missing out on. I canceled everything. Didn't open gifts from my babies till the next day. Yes babies (Sadie, Bella, Gypsy, Addie, even Harvey, Pee Wee, and Pfeffernusse). Didn't actually go out to dinner with my loving extended family to Babe's Chicken till Sunday (which is another must you guys should try) but the most questionable question I've been asked is " what did I if any, drink for my birthday" ?



pina colada angel food cake

pina colada angel food cake

I have to actually be honest and say not anything at all. Even when I get the Gabriela look thrown back at me or the raise your eyebrows from disbelief will I say that for one celebration which was exactly purposefully planned to be (bland) will I tell you that this birthday will be the most memorable birthday ever. Got to spend it with my love, eat an egg sanwich, eat chicken, have a pina colada angel food birthday cake, watch a must buy movie, and had it alcoholic free.

Let me tell you that if you ever accomplish a (bland) birthday you will know that it is one of the hardest things to do. But I succeeded learned from it and will not do this next year.



i am old

trickster

Sharing a story with you. I encounter all kinds of people on a daily basis. Some crazier than others. I try my best to be nice to the elders because my parents fall in that category and well I want them to get treated with respect. Conversation, how does it end the way it does? You start talking about something which leads to something else and forget what the original question was. I don't remember how a conversation with an elder started today but I do remember how it ended.

She tells me that she feels as though her house is haunted. I told her that I wouldn't doubt it. Things keep being out of place. Like someone is playing tricks on her. I joked and said they are having harmless fun. She laughed and said that he was playing tricks on her and that she tells him to stop. I asked her how she knew it was a him and had it been for a long time. She told me that it started a couple of months ago. Her son in law a trickster married her daughter and was always playing tricks on her. He would pretend to trip her while she would be sweeping the floor and she would find herself hitting his butt with the broom. He went to the doctor October of last year and was diagnosed with cancer. I didn't want to ask what kind and she didn't tell me. I could tell it was hard for her to tell me since I could see she was fighting tears from her eyes. They didn't know how it had taken over his body so quickly and he didn't make it pass January this year. He was 30 years old. I hardly hear about the bond that mother n laws have with their son n laws but you could tell that she missed him.

What a young age to lose a new member to the family.  She said " it's strange how all the good people leave us" and smiled. She told me that she has another son n law that is a real butt.

She told me that she heard that they leave when they are reincarnated to finish what they hadn't finished in their past life. To comfort her I told her if you think about it the good ones leave because as the world keeps moving forward the worse it becomes so they are spared from seeing it go to such waste. She told me she still talks to him so I told her there was no harm in it. It's just his way of saying he is still here.

I don't know what I said or did for her to share this story with me. Be kind to your elders they have seen so much more than us.

Sometimes when you least expect it a loved one will come by and say hi the only way they can.

You wonder how can someone that has left this place come back to try to relate a small message or gesture? At least I wondered that when it happened to me.

two dinosaurs

I'm taking pictures of my special about to be one year old niece. My nephew brings his coloring book sits next to Heather while we are conducting a photo shoot. He sits there making conversation with Heather tells her how he loves dinosaurs, starts to name them. Tells her what he has seen and how he reacts when he is being chased by a T-Rex. After the photo session he hands me a colored paper. Of course no mater what it is I say it is the best thing I have ever seen. He whispers to tell her "see i told you she would like it". The gesture alone is wonderful. He also colors one for Heather. When we are finished and are coming home Heather tells me that he said one is me and one is her. The thought of this colored page being the best thing I ever saw has now even brought me happy tears.

I sometimes wonder if they know the relationship Heather and I have. It never crossed my mind to actually think about what would happen if they ever asked us. When I met Heather her siblings were very young it also never occurred to me to have that question asked by them. Thinking about it now, will I be prepared? The little ones in my family just know that we live together that for as long as they have lived they have known both of us. When family gathers they know that all my sisters have their partners and that Heather is mine. That just proves fact that if you teach your children hate that is what they learn. They love us for us. I'm hoping all they see is love. He is only five years old. His mind is pure. He knows only love.

What is wrong with the world?